I don t know why my default is to say I m sorry. I ve said before that apologies start to mean nothing when you say you re sorry all the time. I ve noticed that my natural shyness, that I struggle with daily to bury under an exterior of confidence and friendliness, betrays me when I apologize constantly. You are a pretty cool person no matter what anyone thinks. And I m not sorry for saying that. 😉I also continually apologise for nothing in particular. Apologize when you ve hurt someone. I am working on doing it less.
I feel like when I brag, or I nervously blurt out a lot of facts and information that I find interesting but others don t, that everyone wishes I would shut up and go away. I m sorry that I apologize for nothing and everything, because doing so might make me more likeable, or cooler, or more normal. The problem is that I feel that way a lot. The fact is, no one cares about how you appear because no one is even thinking about you. I can certainly identify with much of what you say. Really interesting post you have here 🙂Reblogged this on. I completely, completely, COMPLETELY relate to this! Or disagree with authority etc and it has led to an epidemic of meaningless apology. I shouldn t have to apologize for being me. Love it!
Anxiety SUCKS eggs! Thank you for writing into words what I have been unable to. Reblogged this on. Thank you for sharing. But I have noticed, as I ve gotten older, that I have an inherent nervousness that I feel like I have to apologize for. But I m more likely to apologize, sometimes in a very blurting, slightly explosive way, if you say you like something that I don t like. I sometimes apologize for my quirks, like my irrational hatred for birds. I m sorry that I ve made you think that the mistakes that I make are life-threatening and life-changing, that they re things that can t be fixed and that are the end of the world. And I m sorry. I know inherently that there s not one person in this world who doesn t feel wrong-footed and awkward at least sometimes. And my anxiety is wrong. I m not wrong for existing. Not badly and certainly not prohibitively, but it would happen and I d cringe every time. It s a very hard habit to break. 🙂I don t think I apologise for little things like that (I find it hard enough giving a genuine apology), but I can definitely relate to the anxiety, especially the speechlessness, and the things the anxiety tells you about not being liked by others. Republicou isso em. Sometimes I wondered if I was one of few people who do this. And I don t know why I constantly apologize. I used to twitch and shake my hands when I was nervous or excited. Mean your apologies.
I d love to hear your thoughts on worrying! Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Connecting to %s And the big thing is, they re not thinking about you half as much as you think about yourself and how you appear to the world. So let s stop apologizing. I ve been through the cognitive behavioural therapy journey and I can usually explain these things away to myself. Except that it comes out when I apologize. I know this stuff.. I try to rationalize it and say I m just an overly considerate person, but in the end it sometimes seems more based off anxiety. Make them genuine. Because I m really NOT sorry that I am the way I am. I think it is deeply ingrained from a young age that we shouldn t interrupt, be rude It s an uncomfortable habit I haven t been able to drop. Or if we share different opinions on something. Things that aren t really there. It sometimes still happens, when I talk to upper management or when I meet someone new. Apologize when you re wrong and strive to be better next time. Plus, I say just kidding I have noticed that my apologies, while genuine, are also knee-jerk reactions that I throw out when I m around people, especially people I want to impress. It was a habit I was gently and cutely made fun of for by my family and close friends. I m sorry for apologizing for having my own opinions. I m sorry that my self-confidence is low and that I feel like I have to apologize for that. I feel paranoid, like the world thinks I m stupid and can see right through me. I still do it sometimes unconsciously when I m excited or nervous now. I m sorry.
I m sorry that I apologize for quirks that I have, that might be annoying, or might be stupid, or might be nothing at all because everyone has quirks and that s okay. I m sorry, self, that I ve made you think you need to constantly apologize for being YOU. I m sorry. I used to stammer when I was nervous. With a little giggle when things get awkward and often when I m not kidding! And I m not going to apologize for it anymore. Reblogged this on and commented:
OMG, I apologize all the time too. I m sorry, I m sorry, I m sorry. Anxiety is this beast that sits right over your forehead and turns your head back and forth, showing you things you don t want to see. It s something that I say a lot, if you re around me. It tells everyone around me that I m still struggling with self-confidence, with self-worth. And with the clarity of getting older and learning to deal with shyness and anxiety, I ve realized that my anxiety lies. And when you have anxiety, like I do, this is your brain s constant lie. My anxiety just likes to make me think that I should be. Apologize when you ve made a mistake that has caused someone pain or suffering in any way. I don t do that anymore, but when I m called on how quiet I am in certain settings, I remember being asked why the cat always had my tongue. At work, I constantly have people telling me to stop apologizing. I might say it if I accidentally touch your arm. So, I m working on this knee-jerk apologizing. I m sorry. I m sorry that I apologize all the time for things I don t have to apologize for. Everyone is concentrated on themselves. That I ve made you think that I m someone who doesn t deserve to take pride in her accomplishments and her intelligence. I apologize, usually with a little nervous laugh, probably because I stepped into your path or I accidentally interrupted you. If I step in your way, have to ask you a question while you re busy, or even if I just need a post-it note, I apologize. And I ve heard the stereotype about Canadians, that we never stop apologizing for just being us. When I was little, I used to be unable to speak to anyone new at first, because my shyness would paralyze my tongue. Apology essay short socrates.